One of the first decisions that you’ll need to make when planning a wedding is to choose the date.
And for weddings slated to fall at some point toward the beginning of the year, an obvious question will arise:
Should you get married on Valentine’s Day?
On one hand, there are a number of obvious advantages to such an idea.
Valentine’s Day is one of the most romantic days of the year. It’s literally a holiday based on the concepts of love, romance, flowers, the giving and receiving of gifts, etc.
However, there are also some downsides to getting married on this most ‘romantic’ of days—and they can tend to make even the bravest wedding planners pause in consideration.
- Is it tacky?
- Is it ‘overdone?’
- Will your guests struggle to be able to RSVP to such an important event on a holiday that they’ve probably already made their own plans for?
These are some fairly obvious pros and cons.
But the truth of the matter is that this is actually a pretty simple question to answer.
So let’s do a deep dive and talk a little bit more about the specifics.
The Upsides To A Valentine’s Day Wedding
There are some obvious upsides to scheduling your special day on February 14th.
First of all, Valentine’s Day is themed almost entirely around the concepts of love and romance.
Even from an aesthetic perspective, the decorations for the holiday tend to fall really closely in line with the types of decorations you’d want at a beautiful wedding.
Think reds and whites, ornate flower arrangements, hearts, etc.
To be quite honest, there are few holidays that can give you as many beautiful built-in aesthetic benefits and themes for your wedding as Valentine’s Day.
Imagine large bouquets of white and red roses, beautiful floral wreaths adorned with red and white ribbons, and a flowing white wedding dress—trimmed with an exquisite red bow.
Imagine how much fun it would be to try on your gorgeous wedding gown with your friends and bridal party—choosing the absolute perfect dress to go along with all of those Pinterest pins, plans, cut-outs, and magazine clippings you’ve saved up to plan for this once-in-a-lifetime event—all while also knowing that your special day is going to fall directly on the most romantic day of the year!
These are just a few examples of how a Valentines-themed wedding can be spectacular, and really help to build up anticipation to make the event as special as you’ve always dreamed it would be.
Plus, on another note, getting married on February 14th will also have an added benefit for your man—he’ll never be able to forget your wedding anniversary!
The Downsides Of A Valentine’s Day Wedding
Now that we’ve taken a closer look at the upsides, let’s also (in fairness) explore some of the downsides of making February 14th (or the weekend of it) your official wedding day.
First off, some people may see it as being a bit tacky.
However, it’s also true that proper planning and foresight can help to offset this risk.
Yes, designing a wedding theme based poorly around little Cupids and hearts could very well be written off as ‘less than traditionally tasteful.’
But there are also plenty of ways to portray the Valentine’s Day aesthetic while also keeping the overarching themes of your wedding classy and traditional.
Secondly, Valentine’s Day is a popular holiday.
In fact, it’s so popular that some people worry that choosing it for a wedding date may actually prevent some people from being able to attend.
It is, after all, a very widely celebrated mainstream holiday.
There may be couples among your guest list who have already booked getaways or vacations over the Valentine’s Day weekend, who would thus be unable to make it to your special day as a result.
There are also likely numerous other events (both local and abroad) that could even threaten to pull valued members of your wedding party in various different directions.
In other words, date conflicts can arise.
Keep in mind though, that for the most part, if you give people plenty of notice, a wedding is easy to plan around.
And honestly, that’s really the key.
Let your potential guests know far enough in advance that they can make their own plans while still keeping your wedding on their calendar.
Weddings are happy occasions.
They represent the most monumental manifestation of love that humans are capable of—coming together in wedded matrimony to begin a new life and a brand new family.
And in regards to whether or not to schedule this blessed day on V-day—well, we’ll tell you the same thing we tell everyone.
When you’re tempted to fear that your wedding may conflict with other people’s plans, it’s also fair to remind yourself that weddings, by and large, are extremely important events to most people—and your wedding will be especially important to your friends, loved-ones, and family members.
Therefore, you’re really only likely to run into scheduling conflicts if you try to schedule a Valentine’s Day wedding without enough advance notice.
There are some obvious upsides and downsides to a Valentine’s Day wedding.
However, we’ve always been firm believers in the idea that the downsides can definitely be overcome with a few simple proactive measures.
- Firstly, make sure that your decor is aesthetically on point by minimizing some of the ‘tackier’ Valentine’s Day elements in favor of more traditional decor choices.
- And secondly, as long as you give your friends and loved ones enough advance notice to plan around it, scheduling really shouldn’t be a problem.
In other words, we believe that Valentine’s Day is an amazing day for a wedding!
If you need some help planning it, please stop by to toss around your ideas. We’d love to hear them and help you out with the process.